Resentment

Resentment does more harm to you than it does the people you are resenting.
It prevents you from starting fresh because you are holding on to the past.

One of the things I want to define in this blog is what is means "to hold on to the past." Because, I never knew how much deep seeded resentment was a part of me not letting go of things.

"Holding onto the past" is you remembering what happened in full detail even down to the feelings of inadequacy/disappointment with the realization that we just should have known better.
"Holding onto the past", is you remembering every time you see the offender the pain or the frustration.

A friend of mine said to me one day, "You have to forgive people and not hold their wrongs against them." And even though it was a truth I already knew, it was resounding that day because being able to forgive and "forget" is the whole foundation of a spiritual life. It is the absence of judgment with the capacity for minimal error, right? Yes, but that shyt is hard.

Its hard because when people, circumstances, life grips us with pain, insecurity, disenchantment and/or wrong, we want to see justice in our interactions or in our ability to get past it. We want to know that others will pay for their offenses. But the truth is, its not even up to us to make sure someone else learns their lesson.

It is,however, up to us to find hope in our movement forward.